04 May 2009

it's a theme

found my charm today, the one that sits between my breasts and fills the hollow place he created when he left. today in psychology class we learned about the stages of grieving. I have gone through denial (feels like I'm still there), anger, bargaining. am I acceptance yet? I don't know. I hope I'm approaching it.
it still hurts. even with this barrier protecting my chest; it still hurts. all I do is keep it from spreading. keep it central to my sternum. keep it from seeping to my limbs and brain. it aches beneath the silver. I throb.
I mumble to myself. I say things that reassure at the time, but later I can't recall them.
carried luca to bed last night. she put her paws around me. I think what I like is her vulnerability, her total trust, her ability to forgive. when was the last time someone was vulnerable with me? when was the last time I was? I feel discarded and confused. I woke up one day to realize I was on a different street, in a different neighborhood, and everyone I knew was just slightly off.
everything that happens to me feels like a first. how can anyone get over this shit? why is it so hard? he isn't real anymore. he's my fiction. in my brain, I watch movies of his moves. I remember how he used to kiss me. I remember the way he would smell. he wasn't everything to me, but he was close. I needed him. part of me still does. I wonder if he ever needed me?

this could be the breaking point. I want to stabilize. if I make it through the next month without self-destructing then I think I can make it through another. if I live it like that, eventually I can finish the year. and when I do that, another. and this is how my life will be. it is one day to one week to one month to one year to one life lived without him.

I was lonely before he left me. I am lonely now that he is gone; there's just no ready distraction like there used to be. I was lonely then. I am lonely now. How does one cease this? how does one cure loneliness without dependence?

I have a secret.
I want someone to depend on. and I want someone to depend on me.
I want to feel special and singular again. I doubt myself constantly, no matter how self-assured I seem.
when they start treating me like everyone else, that's how I know things are over.
oh god.
I need someone to hold me.

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